The Unexpected Lesson
“I have learned, that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Henry David Thoreau
“Just smile,” I was thinking, as I pictured my friend Chris Wellington (right) who starts his weekly Facebook jokes with that phrase.
I’ve been asking the universe for some time now to send me a man to share good times with. It’s been more than 10 years since the dissolution of my 30 year marriage. Finally, my eye is no longer attracted to a man resembling my former husband. That’s a sign!!
And my coach said recently that my heart will open up when I’m ready.
One day, there was a comment on my FaceBook wall from a man. The content told me clearly this person was a baby in social media … maybe even an embryo! Nonetheless, I thanked him for his kind comments and let it go.
Let me say that 6 months ago, I might have rolled my eyes and deleted the post, annoyed. I would have reacted. What was different this time was that I responded.
My first thought when I read the comment was “how sweet.”
I shared this with my coach and she said “you’re ready!” It was the responding in lieu of reacting, I figured.
And, she said something about the Universe sending him and my heart opening. So I sat with that. So often the things I’ve wanted have shown up in unexpected ways. Was this another one?
When I returned to my wall, there was another comment, imploring me to call him. I did nothing. This is very unusual behavior for me for I’m rarely without something to say or write.
A day later I removed the posts from my wall and sent him a private note saying I would call.
Today I went to look for his number. I was in the right mindset to call him. I couldn’t find the number. Then I remembered we had one mutual friend! I checked her wall, and here it is my friends ….
With little exception, the same imploring notes he wrote on my wall, he entered on her wall as well!
I just had to … SMILE.
The Lesson? It doesn’t matter how your heart begins to open … it just matters that it does!