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The 4th Grade Expert

edisonRemember when we started school? Remember how we looked up to the older kids? I do.

I remember being ‘in awe’ of the older kids and how they seemed to navigate through school, classes, students and teachers with ease, while I never seemed to know which way to turn.

We are all experts (to a degree) … the 4th grader is an expert in all things … to the 3rd grader! Picture of Thomas Edison … who didn’t manage well in public school and was taught primarily by his mother!

The question is this … will YOU seek the advice of the 4th grader, the high school grad, or the college grad? Will you do your ‘homework’ to find out who is the best?

Experts are people who have done deep study in an area over time, who have embodied that study, live it, walk it and talk it, and now teach it to people who get consistent results, measurable, over time.  Leslie Flowers

I don’t confuse having a college degree with affording someone expert status in that field. They are not necessarily synonymous.

If I need heart surgery, not only had there better be a big fat degree on the wall, but he/she also must have done hundreds (if not thousands) of these surgeries and have consistent measurable results over time.

So it’s not about degrees. Jobs that require saving lives, require degrees and certifications.

There are however many industries that do not require degrees or certifications to be an expert.

Speakers, authors, coaches, facilitators, and online product marketers do not need a degree or a certification. Some coaches as example have certifications. Some do not. The certification does not make the expert coach. It is via the application of the ‘art’ that expertise arises.

Because a coach paid and passed written work, does not mean they engage well with human beings. Or that they practice their craft. It only means they took and passed a course.

In the same light, a person can learn to coach without getting a certification and become a world class expert!

You can also look at cub reporter Napoleon Hill who was engaged by Andrew Carnegie (steel magnate) almost 100 years ago to interview successful members of our society. The reporter became an “expert in success.’ He studied it, lived it, walked it talked it, and wrote what most consider to be the greatest contribution to the 20th century Think and Grow Rich.

Don’t hold yourself back in stepping out in your field because you don’t ‘think’ you are, or could be, an expert!

You are an expert if your area of expertise is one that people gain consistent measurable results over time when learning with you! If you love the field you are in — really LOVE it — take the time and revel in the results of those you teach. For their results constitute your expertise.

If this topic interests you, you may wish to review this BLOG.

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Think of Yourself as an Expert?

expert-1Even with a university degree in your hand, please don’t consider yourself an Expert! You are NOT!

NO ONE IS with only a degree in hand! Even with an M.S., Ph.D. and M.D., expertise comes much, much later.

It takes dedication and practice of your craft over time to attain Expert status. And you don’t need a university degree to BE an Expert either!

You could look at young Napoleon Hill, a cub reporter, when he met Andrew Carnegie and was engaged by Carnegie to do what is considered by most as THE most important piece of work in the 20th century, hands down. Find out what successful people do … that the unsuccessful fail to do.

Hill became a Success Expert by interviewing more than 10,000 people over 20 years, including consistent, repeated progress reporting during that time with 500 of our country’s happy, healthy and wealthy individuals, and documenting the findings in Think and Grow Rich almost 100 years ago. To this day you will see threads of Hill’s work in all the greats in personal development. If they say not … I purport they are fibbing.

1.       Gathering and studying in-depth over time, with results to match.

Hill was not a journalism expert. He became a Success Expert because he made it his business to immerse himself as no one had ever done before over time with ‘living successes.’  Degree? Meaningless, really. Hill learned quickly that what we believe we will achieve. Six beliefs that could limit your success articulated in this blog.

You?  You can be a reporter in a field you adore and are inspired by and then BE an expert in that field!

2.       Maintain consistent positive results over time.

Experts not only have done in depth study in their field, they have been practicing it, teaching it and have documented measurable results of their work over time.

Jumping from one field to another – chasing the dollar – does not make you an Expert – well maybe in chasing the dollar, you are.

3.       Best-selling author?

Unfortunately there is now a system that a smart person can figure out (or pay to learn) that will FORCE their book to have ‘best seller status!’  Yes, that is correct. Anyone with money can BE a best selling author!

That does not mean the author is an Expert in anything! It means they are smart enough to USE the system so they ‘look’ like a best-selling author. Their book does not have to meet any standards of excellence and rarely does.

It does not mean categorically either that the author is NOT a good writer. It simply means if you are a smart cookie and/or have enough gumption or money to hire someone, you can manipulate the system for this status. And it can never be taken away from you.

If you have established yourself as an Expert in one field and jump around to similar ancillary fields, chasing the almighty dollar – this doesn’t make you an Expert in the new field.

4.       Pushing Products.

If you are also smart enough to ‘buy’ online product marketing expertise, or figure it out for yourself, it doesn’t mean that your materials are Expert. In fact if you USE this system of manipulative influence, you really are doing those purchasing your product(s) a disservice. Just because you know the ‘systems’ and have bought ‘lists’ and affiliation relationships, these things do NOT make you an Expert in your field.  Pedaling products that are untried with no consistent measurable results, IS the disservice.

5.       Certifications rather than Degrees.

There are many money-making, certificate giving, coaching institutions that teach you to be a coach. Just because you paid and did the written work, does not mean you are an Expert coach. You may not even be a decent coach! It means you took the courses. You would need to gain consistent results over time, that are measurable and sustainable, to reach Expert status. And the best coaches in the world have no certification from these organizations! If you are a coach or want to be one, you may enjoy this post about coaching excellence.

  • It’s easy to assume best seller means Expert.
  • It’s easy to assume that coaching certification means Expert.
  • It’s easy to assume if you are an Expert in one field, that you can jump to an ancillary one and still maintain that status.

For consumers … be weary of where and how you spend money with Experts.

ASK them for the results of their current programs and products, before you spend one dime. Remember that smart ‘rats’ who are after money first and serving people second, will sell you down the river to feed their own bank accounts. A bit of due diligence on your part will yield your investing smartly in your own growth with true Experts … not with smart folks who know how to manipulate the systems in place to make money.

Side Note:

In 2011 the Experts Industry Association was formed for coaches, speakers, authors, trainers, and online product marketers by Brendon Burchard. Members promise to work transparently and with integrity, no matter what. I am proud to be a member of this organization.

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We Already Have Perfect Memory

memory2So often I hear people say .. and often write “I am losing my memory!”

Or, “I can’t find my keys! See … I told you I’m losing my memory!”

Or, “what did I come into this room to get? I must be losing my memory.”

Your ability to remember WILL be diminished … if you BELIEVE IT! And the more you THINK it, SAY it, and WRITE it, the more you will believe it.

What we BELIEVE … we GET. Simple as that!

Whether we believe we are losing our memory … or that we have PERFECT MEMORY … both are correct and available to us. Either can be embedded as belief by our REPEATING our thoughts consistently in intervals over time.

What to do to improve memory? Well it is already perfect! You just don’t BELIEVE it yet!

  • Every time you ‘catch’ yourself saying any of the items above (or derivatives), SAY or WRITE the opposite! In the beginning it will ‘feel’ inauthentic and it IS a lie at that time. The phenomenon is tied up in the Law of Polarity … every up has a down; dark and light; inside and outside. And so it is with our beliefs. We can choose to believe we are forgetful … OR … we can choose to believe we have a perfect memory!

There are those who go way beyond perfection in memory! You might enjoy this book by Jerry Lucas and Harry Lorayne “The Memory Book” which is not read from beginning to end like most books, but allows the reader to select what they wish to remember … better!

And Jim Kwik of Kwik Learning works with improving memory along with speed reading and brain performance. He is the consummate industry expert! I watched him teach 400 people to count to ten in Japanese in 3 minutes! While I have a perfect memory (and I occasionally forget 😉 I am registered and learning with Jim Kwik and his programs.

Unfortunately, societal programming starting at a very early age, along with passed on beliefs of our parents and family, has almost everyone walking around

  1. having no idea we have a choice, and 
  2. having no idea HOW to make the change in what we believe.

Once you know you can make a choice in what you believe about your memory (and everything else), just practice the bullet point above! Do it with consistency and get excited about how it will be for you when you are remembering things like a pro!

Before long you will be saying my memory is perfect … and so it will be … and so it IS!

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illust by hyoin min 민효인(a.k.a nyoin) www.nyo-in.com/

Why We Don’t Listen to One Another

listeningIn 1996 I learned an amazing lesson for myself when I took my first Landmark Forum. The program is an eye-opener for those curious in why life is going the way it is for us. We learned more than a dozen powerful insights or distinctions that weekend. When I returned home, I remember having an interesting conversation with my husband.

  1. I made a statement.
  2. He perceived it based on what he thought I meant.
  3. Then he reacted to his point of view.
  4. I told him that was not what I meant.
  5. He said but you said such and such.
  6. And around in circles we went!

It took me 3 tries explaining this distinction until he got that his perception of my intention was not the same as my intention! 

I realized he was actually having a dialogue with himself! I might as well have left the room because it was between what he believed I meant and his response to that!

Sixteen years later, having a conversation with a married gentleman at a social function (he was attending one of my mastermind groups) he shared about a breakthrough he had with his wife. As he told the story of realizing he really had never listened to her (the thing she kept telling him she wanted), the lesson from long ago ‘popped’ into my mind, as clear as it was all those years ago. I shared my conversation with my husband all those years ago … and he said exactly! I can share that his wife was thrilled that he got this because he was LISTENING TO HER, finally!

This is about distinguishing our perception of what someone else means … and checking in with them to see if the perceptions and your intentions match.

How often do we react to what someone says based on what we ‘think’ they meant?
How often has someone reacted to what you said — and they were way off base?

Without distinguishing this for ourselves, we never really listen – really listen to what people are saying. We are simply interpreting what we hear, based on our own view of the world; no two views are identical by the way, and then having a dialogue with ourselves!

Perception changes with new information so our ‘view’ of things changes when and if we actually take the time to find out what the other person really meant and wanted to share.

To make a change right now in your own listening, it would mean simply stopping a moment and asking the other person “did you mean this when you said thus-and-such?” (Successful sales people use this technique all the time with their clients. They know if their potential client is not ‘heard’ they will not buy.)

Without intentionally taking this next step, the other person is left unheard — and our greatest desire as humans is to BE heard and to MATTER. One person is right and the other is left feeling wrong. There is no room for a real dialogue. There is no collaboration. There is no growth.

Consider —  WANTING to know what they meant so you can find out WHY they said it and then expanding your own perception … while theirs is also expanding!

Characterization of God

MC900056759I caught the last 15 minutes of Joel Osteen’s weekly television show this morning. I rarely do, yet when I do, I always get an insight for myself. Today was no different.

Osteen talked about ‘God doing this,’ and ‘God doing that,’ to bring abundance, with a snap of his finger, into your life; bringing you from the back of the line to the front of the line, shifting the tides in your favor. He made God out to be a very busy man!

His presentation was speaker perfection … make a point, tell a story; make a point, tell a story … have a percentage of ‘feel good’ moments every so many minutes … the things I learned in 2009 from Speaker Expert Steve Siebold when I took his Gove-Siebold Workshop and became a certified speaker.

I noticed I saw for myself, I conjured up an image of God, as Osteen spoke — and gestured as God might, crossing his arms, granting wishes, changing the ‘wind,’ and I reminded myself that most all of us think in pictures, and images have us ‘feel’ a certain way, and the way we feel draws more of people with ‘that’ into our lives based on universal law. I saw a Santa-type, benavelent God. Do we each have our own unique character of God with which we establish quick rapport?

Osteen’s stories were motivating, Bible-based, and easy to understand, thereby boosting my own vibration and good feelings, further peppered with hope and gratitude — deriving the EXACT vibration for optimum co creation! As God moves to us, through us, and on to the next being, to be honored with this repeating process forever — we are in best harmony or flow with universal law when in the state of gratitude and love.

“I am the mirror of your greatness and you are the mirror of mine.”

“I shine an intense light in the world. How big my light appears to you is in direct proportion to the light you have within yourself.”

So I concluded that it is not the characterization of God that causes good fortune. It is using that image to find, match, and feel, and then generate the vibration of love and gratitude to quickly align, and co-create life in optimum abundance, by being precisely who and what we will attract. Consistently generating this feeling, the more we easily build Faith in the power of the universe to bring us the things we want.

“We bring up this perfect feeling at will by always and intentionally looking for the greatness in others.”

If we recognize love and gratitude in others it means we have it in ourselves. The more we purposely practice looking at people and situations this way — finding the good — the more often and quickly we are in collaborative alignment with God and universal law. As we ascend our personal mountain of conscious awareness leading us again to our genius and infinite potential, we look back and realize what seemed to be a convoluted path getting to this level, really was a simple straight line to live our unique purpose of service, and once again become one with all there is.

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