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Think of Yourself as an Expert?

expert-1Even with a university degree in your hand, please don’t consider yourself an Expert! You are NOT!

NO ONE IS with only a degree in hand! Even with an M.S., Ph.D. and M.D., expertise comes much, much later.

It takes dedication and practice of your craft over time to attain Expert status. And you don’t need a university degree to BE an Expert either!

You could look at young Napoleon Hill, a cub reporter, when he met Andrew Carnegie and was engaged by Carnegie to do what is considered by most as THE most important piece of work in the 20th century, hands down. Find out what successful people do … that the unsuccessful fail to do.

Hill became a Success Expert by interviewing more than 10,000 people over 20 years, including consistent, repeated progress reporting during that time with 500 of our country’s happy, healthy and wealthy individuals, and documenting the findings in Think and Grow Rich almost 100 years ago. To this day you will see threads of Hill’s work in all the greats in personal development. If they say not … I purport they are fibbing.

1.       Gathering and studying in-depth over time, with results to match.

Hill was not a journalism expert. He became a Success Expert because he made it his business to immerse himself as no one had ever done before over time with ‘living successes.’  Degree? Meaningless, really. Hill learned quickly that what we believe we will achieve. Six beliefs that could limit your success articulated in this blog.

You?  You can be a reporter in a field you adore and are inspired by and then BE an expert in that field!

2.       Maintain consistent positive results over time.

Experts not only have done in depth study in their field, they have been practicing it, teaching it and have documented measurable results of their work over time.

Jumping from one field to another – chasing the dollar – does not make you an Expert – well maybe in chasing the dollar, you are.

3.       Best-selling author?

Unfortunately there is now a system that a smart person can figure out (or pay to learn) that will FORCE their book to have ‘best seller status!’  Yes, that is correct. Anyone with money can BE a best selling author!

That does not mean the author is an Expert in anything! It means they are smart enough to USE the system so they ‘look’ like a best-selling author. Their book does not have to meet any standards of excellence and rarely does.

It does not mean categorically either that the author is NOT a good writer. It simply means if you are a smart cookie and/or have enough gumption or money to hire someone, you can manipulate the system for this status. And it can never be taken away from you.

If you have established yourself as an Expert in one field and jump around to similar ancillary fields, chasing the almighty dollar – this doesn’t make you an Expert in the new field.

4.       Pushing Products.

If you are also smart enough to ‘buy’ online product marketing expertise, or figure it out for yourself, it doesn’t mean that your materials are Expert. In fact if you USE this system of manipulative influence, you really are doing those purchasing your product(s) a disservice. Just because you know the ‘systems’ and have bought ‘lists’ and affiliation relationships, these things do NOT make you an Expert in your field.  Pedaling products that are untried with no consistent measurable results, IS the disservice.

5.       Certifications rather than Degrees.

There are many money-making, certificate giving, coaching institutions that teach you to be a coach. Just because you paid and did the written work, does not mean you are an Expert coach. You may not even be a decent coach! It means you took the courses. You would need to gain consistent results over time, that are measurable and sustainable, to reach Expert status. And the best coaches in the world have no certification from these organizations! If you are a coach or want to be one, you may enjoy this post about coaching excellence.

  • It’s easy to assume best seller means Expert.
  • It’s easy to assume that coaching certification means Expert.
  • It’s easy to assume if you are an Expert in one field, that you can jump to an ancillary one and still maintain that status.

For consumers … be weary of where and how you spend money with Experts.

ASK them for the results of their current programs and products, before you spend one dime. Remember that smart ‘rats’ who are after money first and serving people second, will sell you down the river to feed their own bank accounts. A bit of due diligence on your part will yield your investing smartly in your own growth with true Experts … not with smart folks who know how to manipulate the systems in place to make money.

Side Note:

In 2011 the Experts Industry Association was formed for coaches, speakers, authors, trainers, and online product marketers by Brendon Burchard. Members promise to work transparently and with integrity, no matter what. I am proud to be a member of this organization.

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Why We Don’t Listen to One Another

listeningIn 1996 I learned an amazing lesson for myself when I took my first Landmark Forum. The program is an eye-opener for those curious in why life is going the way it is for us. We learned more than a dozen powerful insights or distinctions that weekend. When I returned home, I remember having an interesting conversation with my husband.

  1. I made a statement.
  2. He perceived it based on what he thought I meant.
  3. Then he reacted to his point of view.
  4. I told him that was not what I meant.
  5. He said but you said such and such.
  6. And around in circles we went!

It took me 3 tries explaining this distinction until he got that his perception of my intention was not the same as my intention! 

I realized he was actually having a dialogue with himself! I might as well have left the room because it was between what he believed I meant and his response to that!

Sixteen years later, having a conversation with a married gentleman at a social function (he was attending one of my mastermind groups) he shared about a breakthrough he had with his wife. As he told the story of realizing he really had never listened to her (the thing she kept telling him she wanted), the lesson from long ago ‘popped’ into my mind, as clear as it was all those years ago. I shared my conversation with my husband all those years ago … and he said exactly! I can share that his wife was thrilled that he got this because he was LISTENING TO HER, finally!

This is about distinguishing our perception of what someone else means … and checking in with them to see if the perceptions and your intentions match.

How often do we react to what someone says based on what we ‘think’ they meant?
How often has someone reacted to what you said — and they were way off base?

Without distinguishing this for ourselves, we never really listen – really listen to what people are saying. We are simply interpreting what we hear, based on our own view of the world; no two views are identical by the way, and then having a dialogue with ourselves!

Perception changes with new information so our ‘view’ of things changes when and if we actually take the time to find out what the other person really meant and wanted to share.

To make a change right now in your own listening, it would mean simply stopping a moment and asking the other person “did you mean this when you said thus-and-such?” (Successful sales people use this technique all the time with their clients. They know if their potential client is not ‘heard’ they will not buy.)

Without intentionally taking this next step, the other person is left unheard — and our greatest desire as humans is to BE heard and to MATTER. One person is right and the other is left feeling wrong. There is no room for a real dialogue. There is no collaboration. There is no growth.

Consider —  WANTING to know what they meant so you can find out WHY they said it and then expanding your own perception … while theirs is also expanding!

The Art of Setting Intentions

Art of Setting IntentionsWe do this all the time … set ‘intentions.’ It’s like breathing! It’s not unlike walking from here to there. Because we walk from one room to the other (and have done so all our lives), does not mean walking is an ‘art’ for us. Those who practice ‘walking’ and use it as a tool for health or sports, as example, can really get in the flow and turn ‘walking’ into an Art.

Setting intentions is typically done by default and without distinction of the process. And it is not done with any consistency, so consistent results are not reaped. When intention setting is done ‘on purpose,’ and with clear use of the distinguishable process from beginning to end, the result, which very few enjoy, is the ability to establish true Faith around setting any intention or experiencing it as an ‘art.’ And from Faith comes our Belief that whatever intention we set, we get (without violating the rights of others, of course).

Default, unintentional, intention setting occurs when you plan a birthday party. What is it we do when we plan a party? We begin with the end in mind, first (thank you Stephen Covey for you 2nd habit of 7). We picture the party, set the date, pick the location, choose the decorations, the food, the music, the gifts, and the attendees. The clearer the picture of the party, the closer to fruition it will come. We planned it!

Then of course we work ‘backward’ to the present, figuring what has to be done when and where to ‘pull it off.’ It’s fun. When we are doing something we love, the intentions are more likely to show up. Why? Because the emotion, feeling or vibration of happiness and love, is the precise context and vibration required to make a connection with the universe.

Whatever we are intending (on purpose or by default) is already on its way to us, as we move toward it! If we aren’t paying attention to what we are intending, we get what we get and it is based on how we are feeling, which sets our attracting vibration. So if ‘it’s a poor economic market’ is what we think of most of the time, our personal results are proof that it IS a poor market. We can however think the opposite as based on the universal law of polarity, while it is a poor market, it also must be a great market. If we believe WE are the right person and people are ‘looking for us’ with our skills, when we look for positions, they are right there in front of us. So both exist simultaneously.  A good incentive to start really ‘thinking’ about what we are thinking about!

The visualizing of the ‘end’ is a key in artful intention setting. The more specific, the more detail, the more sure you can be of it happening the way you see it. And above all, the intention to be ‘artful’ must be ‘seen’ as though it already happened – in present tense!

So we do it and absolutely could easily be an expert at it. Without consistency and distinction, however, Faith in the process is not built. From Faith comes BELIEF that we can set intentions and have them show up at will. We never out-perform what we believe we are capable of achieving, so if we don’t ‘see the process’ and ‘measure it’ for ourselves, we don’t believe it works … and what we believe … we get.

To be artful in any endeavor we must have perfect Faith in the process and we achieve that when we do things on purpose and intentionally. We hear ‘have Faith,’ yet does anyone every say HOW to develop
Faith?
Rarely, so I will.

Developing Faith in intention setting (and getting) comes in three distinct phases. You can ‘build it’ on purpose for whatever you want to ‘believe’ you are capable of achieving.

Repetition is the 1st Law of Learning. That means we learn by hearing and addressing material in spaced consistent intervals over time. That’s how we learned out multiplication tables, remember?  We didn’t review them only on Mondays. We did it every day or every other day, at the same time, the same way, for months. Now if I’m asked to this day what 9×7 is, I know 63 without thinking. So do you.

When you set an intention and think about it, laugh about it, visualize it, add color, form, weather, etc., over time, you begin to expect the intention to occur. Expect means you now believe it is ‘likely to occur.’ This is phase 1 of building perfect Faith.

As you continue to visualize the outcome or intention over time, you then believe it will happen … that is you now have a ‘firm opinion’ that it will occur as you have intended. That is phase 2 of building perfect Faith.

And finally with this continuation of behavior, you will develop perfect Faith that your intention will occur. That is you don’t need any measurements of proof … you KNOW that it will happen and no one can change your mind. That is phase 3.

Setting intentions is a process and the final result – perfect Faith in making intention setting an Art – does not show up like the proverbial ‘light bulb’ moment. No. It sneaks in and nips you on the heel. You now have set so many intentions and followed the process of developing Faith in the universal process and your ability, you know that you know it works … and are enjoying ‘playing’ with your life design.

7-Step Process for Setting Artful Intentions for Consistent Manifestation:

  1. Set the intention or outcome you desire.
  2. Be very specific about the intention with lots of details. [I want money vs. I want $10,000.]
  3. Picture it already a ‘done deal.’ How great does it feel?
  4. Get excited when you think about your intention. It’s that vibration that begins the process.
  5. Write out your intention in long hand and review and add to it every week.
  6. Make a 10 minute appointment with yourself a few times a week (and keep it) to review your written statement of intention.
  7. Keep your intention to yourself until you have perfect Faith in the outcome.

This is not a challenging process, so try it on. You can start with intending you get a good parking spot at the mall. Do this consistently, and when spots begin to show up consistently for you, you are already on your way to believing you are capable of co-creating with the universe and its consistent laws via Artful Intention.

Shift-Ware

las-mananitasWhat if there was a technology that measured your growth and shifts in conscious awareness? How wonderful would that be? Well, in fact, there is such a thing! Let me tell you about shift-ware!

I am talking about self monitoring and measuring when practice of a new habit or way of being that you have intentionally improved, actually ‘takes over’ – that is, it now has the weight and intensity required to be the ‘habit of choice.’ The old ones (habits/beliefs) have had their teeth into us for so when a new habit actually ‘over writes’ an old habit (none of them ever disappear of course as you cannot erase matter and thoughts are things) is quite an undertaking and worth noting.

I have taken to looking at my own behavior as either from the ‘head’ (ego/belief driven) or the ‘heart’ (faith/intuition driven).  Both are available to us at all times, however, only ONE is prevalent in any given moment. And the most powerful one is typically the behavior or belief that limits our reaching our potential.

What better example of self monitoring shift-ware than in myself to explain?

Last week I was attending a wedding of a dear friend in Mexico.  Amid all the hub-bub (and believe me a Catholic wedding in Mexico is serious and has lots of lovely details) I found a two hour slot to nap. I needed it. On that Friday afternoon I crawled into my bed and closed my eyes. Situated at the end of the property, there was construction going on in the next building.

My old way of being would be to think “I’m going to call the desk and get them to stop hammering! How dare they disturb my nap time!” That’s the head, the ego, still showing up as the world revolves around me. Know the feeling?

What happened was astounding and instantaneous. What I heard myself thinking was “how wonderful that these people are working! They are blessed to be able to feed their families.”

With eyes closed, every time I heard the banging I smiled and the noise became the music that settled in my heart … and off to nap land I went!

When I woke up I wrote this down (while I have a perfect memory, sometimes I do forget) I saw that now my ‘heart’ was in charge, not my ‘head!’

I win! I thought! After 5 solid years of using the work I teach around living a principled life, what it takes to do that, how universal law plays a part, and understanding precisely how the mind works when it comes to personal results, here was an example … a great one!

There have been many others over these years … this was not the first, but it came with a cluster of other new habits that took ‘hold’ on that trip. It seems that all the work and practice is ‘popping’ left and right for me and I know it can for you.

You can operate your own ‘shift-ware’ by starting right now, regardless of your current circumstances. It costs nothing to do this. It takes time, yet it is not hard at all. Takes a bit of desire and persistence is all.

In January I will be conducting training online/conference that will provide an overview and deep understanding of how to begin the shift-ware process personally, and I’ll be the first to use an online support tool that has never been used in the corporate world before. It is in use by 10k students in universities only thus far. Besides the training calls, there is a highly interactive online classroom with deep analytics to capture your own shift-ware potential. Watch for details. It will be the first so will be at a very low price as I want to see the results, of course!

In the meantime, dear readers, I wish you a warm and wonderful holiday season, and I lift my glass to your prosperity burgeoning in 2013!

Just Keep Swimming

This drops of awareness blog reveals small lessons in growing your own conscious awareness.  The idea is that we learn best in small bits, applied in equally spaced intervals, over time. With each drop you may choose to ‘get something new for yourself,’ and then you begin to see that you actually DO have infinite potential! You were born with it and by now you know that it’s the collection of non serving beliefs that stop us from reaching even the smallest goal.

Linear, bullet pointed text works for some. Non linear experiential text works for many more. These drops are developed for real implementation of the skill, which eventually, if you ‘just keep swimming …’ you will find yourself face to face with what you want. And then you’ve heard ‘be careful what you wish for,’ right?

Children’s movies often have principled lessons embedded within. Yet if the parents do not ‘get’ the message, will it be lost on the children?  I saw Finding Nemo again this weekend, this time in 3D, with two of my darling grandchildren. What struck me was the character Dorie, beautifully articulated by Ellen Degeneres, was discussing principles and universal laws! Oh, yes, and levels of conscious awareness. I saw it and you would too, but I missed it the first time.

If you’ve been reading these drops over time (or even if not), which principle of success, universal law, and level of conscious awareness to which the musical phrase,  ‘just keep swimming, just keep swimming, just keep swimming ….‘ refers?

What fun I thought it would be when I am watching films with my grandchildren, to figure out how very ‘smart’ the writers really are. They are embedding powerful, life changing information in sweet children’s tales.

Principle is Persistence, the 8th principle of success (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill)! One of two principles that are absolute requirements in reaching goal, dream, intent, vision or any kind of success. The other and first of course is DESIRE. That would KEEP you swimming, would it not?

Law is Motion, everything is always moving; we’re either moving forward or backward toward our goal!  We can reach the top of M t. Everest taking only small baby steps, we just can’t stop!

Level is Discipline! At this level you are at a point that you can give yourself an order when no one is looking and you still do it! After that comes experience as you know, and in  this film, Nemo is finally reunited with his father.

The SECRET to all of this???

When you muster desire and persistence and get in action, and keep swimming, everything you desire is already moving toward you, as you are moving toward it. Nemo was looking for his father while Dorie and dad were ‘swimming’ to find Nemo. Leslie Flowers

And with persistence and discipline and ‘singing,’ pure Faith in our ability is acquired. With perfect Faith under your wing, whatever you desire is yours! You are moved through the three levels of creating an unwavering Faith in your abilities to the point where “you know you know it” and need no measurement as proof.

The smallest things in our every day environment are filled with these messages. Each time you recognize one consciously, you have taken one more small step up the mountain of conscious awareness.

Start looking at everyday things for a big surprise! I got one at the movies this past weekend. It came as a surprise to me, but was definitely intended by the movie makers.

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